BNS523: The Art of Influence (How if You’re Winsome, You May Win Some!) (w/ Chris Widener)

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On todayโ€™s episode of The Brian Nichols Show, Chris Widener joins the program to outline how you can influence others by being winsomeโ€ฆ and hey, you may even win some!

โ€œOne of the phrases that I coined is that in order to win some, you must be winsome. And, and I really believe that. You canโ€™t be a jerk.ย 
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You know, sometimes, the Bible says to speak the truth in love. And I think thatโ€™s a great merger, right? You want to speak the truth, but you want to do it in love.ย 
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Some people, they wonโ€™t speak the truth. They say, โ€œIโ€™m not gonna say anything, everybody can do whatever they want to do, Iโ€™m not gonna say somethingโ€™s wrongโ€ฆโ€ย 
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And they just love everybody.ย 
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Well, a society of people doesnโ€™t move forward if you just do that.ย 
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But then thereโ€™s other people who just speak the truth. And they donโ€™t demonstrate the love, and peopleโ€™s look at them like, โ€œWow, well now youโ€™re kind of a jerk.โ€
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You know, speaking the truth in love means considering the other personโ€™s interests and doing it out of helping the other person. But sometimes you need to say something that theyโ€™re not necessarily going to like.ย 
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And you know, thereโ€™s an old biblical proverb that says, โ€œwounds from a friend can be trusted.โ€ I want people to know that even though it might hurt, you can trust me that Iโ€™m saying it, because I believe that itโ€™s the right thing, and itโ€™ll help you out.ย 
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We need to be winsome, you know, the old Ronald Reagan, happy warrior kind of thing. And I just, I think that we would do far better if we could do that.โ€
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